Jon’s sermon this week focused on the nature of love, looking at Proverbs 10:12 and 1 Corinthians 13.
“Ancient Anchors in Choppy Times: Love Anyway”
For the next little while I want you to gather with me your hearts’ affection and your minds attention around a Solomon Proverb so significant in the life of the early church it was borrowed and repeated verbatim at least twice and then recorded in the pages of the New Testament. Here’s the Proverb:
Hatred stirs up dissension,
but lover covers over all wrongs.
James borrowed it, Peter did to too, and whether repeated verbatim or not in the other books of the NT the entire early church, from Jerusalem to Rome, was asked to live their lives under its gospel umbrella.
Hatred stirs up dissension,
but love covers over all wrongs.
I have in mind this morning a few kinds of people. I have in mind a wife who grows increasingly frustrated with the seeming callousness of her husband, he doesn’t pay as much attention, he seems a bit distant, he’s not making time. And I have in the mind the husband who grows increasingly distracted by his wife who always seems to be looking over his shoulder, always making little comments, won’t let him breathe. I have a wife and I have husband in mind, if you’re that wife or you’re that husband I want you to listen carefully, and I want you to embrace in the deep down quietness of your soul, our proverb:
Hatred stirs up dissension,
but love covers over all wrongs.
I have in mind a parent whose patience for the child runs extremely thin, whose heart is aching for their son but whose mind is baffled by his behavior. And I have in mind the daughter or that son who grows increasingly angry at her dad or her mom for their insistence on a certain kind of behavior, who with each roll of her eyes is one step closer to doing it all anyway. I have a mother and I have a daughter in mind, if you’re that mother or you’re that daughter I want you to listen carefully and embrace in the deep down quietness of your soul our proverb:
Hatred stirs up dissension,
but love covers over all wrongs.
I have in mind a friend who has been so wounded by the actions of another they’re not sure if “friend” is the right word to describe their relationship anymore. I have I mind a church goer, a solid Christian believer, who just can’t believe a certain person not too many seats over on a Sunday morning can behave a certain way and still call themselves a believer. I have in mind the one whose heart has been broken and whose tears have run dry not because of sticks and stones but all the other ways we hurt each other. If you’re that friend, or you’re that church goer, or you’re the one whose heart breaks, I want you to listen carefully and embrace in the deep down quietness of your soul our proverb:
Hatred stirs up dissension,
but love covers over all wrongs.
The great theologian Winnie the Pooh, known for his love of honey, is also known to have said, “It’s more fun to talk with someone who doesn’t use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like “What about lunch?” there are a few really short words I’d like us to spend our morning with, they’re short and they’re really easy to say but with respect to Winnie the Pooh they can’t be short lived and they’re not easy to carry out. Here are the short easy words I have in mind:
Love covers over all wrongs…
Love covers over all wrongs…
Love covers over all wrongs….
We’re going to spend our time around the three movements in the second part of Solomon’s Proverb, first “love”, then “covers over” and finally “all wrongs.” But before we get too far along would any gospel conversation about love be worth its time if it didn’t include the teaching of one of the greatest teachers on love of all time. I think you’ll like this (oh and by the way, if you’re one of the people I mentioned earlier you might find this helpful):
If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast,* but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant 5or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. 7It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. 9For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; 10but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. 11When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. 12For now we see in a mirror, dimly,* but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. 13And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.
Which one of us doesn’t need to hear that again? Which one of us doesn’t need to recalibrate relationships on that scale? I want you to allow those words to the church to be alive and well in your hearts and minds as we move forward with our short, easy words from the Proverbs, so feel to turn to them in your Bibles, you can find them in first Corinthians 13.
Love covers over all wrongs…
Love.
That’s the first.
I
Love.
Love is what makes us, love is what marks us, love is what moves us from the sidelines of the gospel to the very heart of the kingdom where we experience the real, the true, the power that the God of love intends for his people of love. Like it or not, easy or not, simple or complex love is the way of Christ, love is the way of the kingdom, love is meant to be the way of the church. I counted, with a little help from the web, the Bible uses the word love or some derivation of it 578 times, second only to “God”, “Lord” and “Jesus”. You tell me is the way of our faith, the way of love?
Jesus said, “they will know you are my disciples if you love one another.”
Paul wrote and you just heard a minute ago, “These three remain, faith hope and love and the greatest of these is love.”
And then, among my personal favorites, heard so often when the waters of baptism roll, “We love because God first loved us.”
Love, love, it is what makes us, it is what marks us, it is what moves us from the sidelines of the gospel to the heart of the kingdom. Love is not a wonderful virtue of the exceptionally kind, it’s the call on the Christian’s life. Love is not the happy coincidence that occurs because a few like-minded people happen to get along, its God’s intention for our lives.
Love. Love. Love.
We throw around the word “love” fairly indiscriminately. I use one and the same word to refer to the kind of love God has for me, “I have loved you with an everlasting love says the Lord”, as I do to describe my commitment to my wife, “I love Kristyn” as I do to describe my relationship with my girls, “I love sweet Lydia and sweet Tabitha and Miriah” as I to describe my relationship to a friend, “I love that guy” as I do to describe my affection for Michigan football, “I love the Wolverines,” as I do to describe my favorite food, “I love pizza” or my new cell phone, “I love this thing.” We understand, of course, what we mean, what kind of love we’re using according to the context. No one wonders if my love of pizza and Kristyn are the same kind of love. The Greeks, the world and language in which the NT was birthed, actually had different words to describe those different kinds of love. There are four of them, I became most familiar with “The Four Loves” through C.S. Lewis who wrote a book titled the four loves. I don’t want to bore with some sort of Greek grammar lesson, but I do want to make a fairly important point so hang with me.
The first Greek word we use for “love” sounds like this, “Storge.” Lewis translates it as “affection,” the indiscriminate affection that anything or anyone might have for another. The affection a boyfriend has for a girlfriend, the affection a dog has for its master. Storge. The only thing that limits “Storge” is familiarity, you have to be in proximity of the object of affection to have affection for it.
Eros is the second greek word we use for love. It is the love enjoyed between a husband and a wife , it may include physicality, but doesn’t have to. We mean “eros” when we speak of being “in love”, eros is attracted to its object. Plato, the Greek Philosopher, defined this love as aspiring for and delighting in the value of its object; loving that which is lovable.
And then there’s Philia, Lewis speaks of it as friendship, but he means more than the enjoyment one has in being with another. Philia is the “selfless concern for the welfare of others that is not called forth by any quality of lovableness in the person loved.” This love, at least in part is the kind of love the Navy is worried about, so there are rules about fraternization, because Navy knows when this love is experienced, when this friendship is known, its commitment will transcend the rules. Philia.
And then of course there is the famous “agape.” It is what you think it is, it is the unconditional love, it is the love God has for us, the love we’re dependant on but so undeserving of. “I have loved you with an everlasting love says the Lord…” “For God so loved the world…”
Guess which one of those our Proverb uses: Storge, Eros, Philia or Agape? Philia, philia is the kind of love Solomon had in mind when he said, “Love covers over all wrongs.” Philia is the kind of love Jesus spoke about when he asked Peter, “Do you love me?” Philia – “a selfless cocern for the welfare of others that is not called forth by the quality of lovableness in the person loved.”
The four loves aren’t always clearly distinguished from one other, the lines blur, there is more than one of them at play in any given relationship at any given time.
The kind of love the Christian faith calls forth from us is rooted in philia pushing towards agape. Solomon uses philia Paul uses agape, each are meant for us, to define us and the way interact, to describe us and the way we treat each other, to mark us and the way we behave.
Love. Love.
Love covers over all wrongs.
II
Covers over….
That’s where we’re going now. Covers over.
Which upon first read at least to me sounds like somehow we’re supposed to just look past “all wrongs. Isn’t that denial? Doesn’t that enable people to continue in their wrong? I don’t think it calls for denial, and I don’t think gospel love wants people in their wrong.
The kind of love Christ calls for from us is not dependant on the one we love. The kind of love the gospel asks of us doesn’t rise and fall on the appearance on the behavior on the attitude of the one we love. Philia is the selfless concern for the welfare of another not based the lovableness of the other. Love covers over all wrongs, in this, the one we love doesn’t dictate our love, the one we love doesn’t make us love, our love for that one comes from something other than that one. Are you with me?
Love covers over all wrongs in that despite the wrongs one may be committing we love any, we’re committed to them anyway, we’re selflessly concerned for their welfare anyway, we don’t stop loving them, caring for them, pursuing their health and wholeness and faith because they’re doing wrong. If that were the case could we love anyone?
And yet Solomon says and James agree and Peter repeats, “Love covers over all wrongs.”
And wasn’t it Paul who said, “Love does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices in the truth.” Love, gospel love, the sort of love the kingdom calls for, loves through wrong doing, loves in spite of wrong doing, doesn’t let wrong doing rule and go on and continue in its wrong while at the same time insisting from us that we’re patient, and that we’re kind, and that we’re not self-seeking, that we persevere and push through and love anyway.
I have a friend who as a kid sowed his wild oats, as they say. His parents were so good to him and kind to him and they took care of him but he floundered his freedom, he floundered their kindness, he ran away with their goodness. He lived the life, reckless abandon, no concern for anyone but his own flesh. The more pursued his own satisfaction the less satisfied he became. And one day he woke up realizing he had lost it all. He had lost his freedom, he had lost his parents goodness, he was a burnout, nothing left, no one to turn to except himself and he was empty, lonely. So he did the only thing he thought he could do, he took the only chance he saw for survival. He returned home, he returned to his mom and his dad, he returned to the place that had nurtured him and loved him but he so completely abused. He was fully expecting the wrath of his dad when he got home, he was expecting and explosion, hoping though maybe just maybe when his dad settled down, he at least let him stay for a while, at least let him eat a little. Do you know what happened when he got home, his dad who was out in the yard for one reason or another saw him coming. He stopped what he was doing, he peered a little harder because he couldn’t believe his eyes and he absolutely started on a dead run to the end of the driveway where he met his son, where he embraced his son, where he covered over the years of wrong, loved him anyway.
Love covers over all wrongs.
I should come clean, he’s not actually a personal friend of mine, I do know him, at least I know his story, it’s the story Jesus told, its been called the Prodigal Son. I think it gives us a glimpse into what the scriptures mean when they commend to us:
Love covers over all wrongs.
Our love is not dependant on the ones we love, we love because we’re called to love. We love because the gospels ask us to love. We love because God loves us.
Here’s a way for you to discern if your love is the gospel, if your love tracks with the kind of love the Christian faith calls for from us. Ask yourself these simple questions:
Ask yourself these simple questions when considering the one you know you’re called to love.
Have I been patient?
Am I being kind?
Is there anything in me envious, boastful, arrogant or rude?
Am I insisting on my own way?
Am I rejoicing in wrongdoing, or I am celebrating the truth?
You get my point.
Love covers over all wrongs. That is not say, love doesn’t identify wrong, but is to say love is dependant on whether or not the one loved does right or wrong.
III
And then before we call it a morning, “All wrongs.”
Love covers over all wrongs.
Really, all of them? You mean everything, anything, all things? I had a hard time believing that’s actually what the Proverb said, “all” so I looked it up in Hebrew, I dusted off my Hebrew Bible, I opened up my Hebrew lexicon, I found the word in Hebrew sounds like this, “Call” and you know what it actually means, “all”, “Everything” “anything.” And you know what else? The Hebrew language doesn’t have punctuation, there are no commas, colons or exclamation points. So the way the Hebrew writers would add emphasis was by the order in which they placed the words in a sentence, the first words being the most important. We rearrange in our English translations for readability and add punctuation to maintain emphasis. Guess what word is first in the second half of proverbs 10:12? You guessed it, “all”, “all wrongs.”
All wrongs are covered over by love.
All, every, any.
And the stunning thing to me, about this Proverb and so much of the NT, that’s kind of love we’re called to embody, that’s the kind of love we’re meant to show, that’s the kind of love that’s meant to mark us, a love that covers over anything and everything.
So will you love your child through his wrong, not just the occasional detention for showing up late to class though that too, but the deeper stuff they do that wounds you significantly.
Love covers over all wrongs.
Will you love your wife even when she looks over your shoulder and keeps offering comments, not to excuse over anxiety, but because we’re called to love anyway, Love covers over all wrongs.
Will you love your husband even as he is distant or callousness, not because that’s ok and he shouldn’t work on it and change, and not because you can’t bring it up, but because we’re called to love anyway, love covers over all wrongs.
Will you love the person down the pew even though they behave in way you think is simply put, wrong, love them because you’re called to love them, “Love covers over all wrongs.”
Will you love the friend who has wounded and the colleague who has stepped on you and the classmate who has ignored you not because they deserve love, not because you their behavior ought to be excused but because we’re called to love, “love covers over all wrongs.”
That’s the kind of love that makes us and marks us and moves from the periphery of the gospel to the heart of the kingdom.
Let’s take a deep breath, lets calm down, lets feel the weight of what the faith asks for from us. Can any of us stand, do any of us have a chance, is there a single one of us who doesn’t fall miserably short? Is there a person here who even knocks on the door of the home our Proverb built:
Love covers over all wrongs.
I know a lot of people who are good at covering over some wrongs, I know handful of people who do well covering many wrongs, but “all, every, any.”
Is there anyone, anywhere, ever to bear the weight of that expectation? Can you think of one? Do you know of one?
There is one, and only one, who bears the weight of that Proverb, there is one and only who has ever lived up to and lived out of that call, “Love covers over all wrong.” There is one who has expressed it perfectly, fully, beautifully, and because he has we can keep trying, because he has loved us despite our lovability we pursue love, because he gave up of himself for our sake we can give up of ourselves for love.
And his name is Jesus. And through his life and by his death and because of his resurrection all of our wrongs have been covered over by a warm blanket of his love. That’s what Trenton meant when he read for us earlier, “God showed his great love for us in this, while we were still sinners Christ died for us.”
That’s Austin was getting when he read from the Psalmist, “As far as the east is from the west so far has God removed our transgressions from us.”
So go ahead, I dare you, I dare you to think long enough and hard enough about your life and come up the wrong Christ can’t forgive, Christ won’t forgive, Christ’s love won’t cover over in a sea of grace.
Love covers over all wrongs.
And because his love covers over all of our wrongs, and because his love inspires our love and we love because God first loved us, we pursue the kind of love that covers wrongs too. We pursue the kind of love he offered, we pursue the sort of love he gave, the kind of love that’s willing to give up of oneself, the kind of love that’s willing to stay in it even through the tough stuff, the kind of love doesn’t depend on how I behave.
You know the name Augustine. Fourth century theologian who has shaped and formed Christian theology more than anyone outside the NT. Augustine wasn’t always saint Augustine. You name the sickness, the sin, the brokenness he lived into and out of it. First of all, he wasn’t a believer for much of his life. In fact he was a pagan, he was apart a cult known as the Manicheans. He had a child by a women who was not his wife. He was really only interested in becoming the greatest speaker in the history of the world. So he pursued a man named Cicero was considered at the time the greatest orator of all time. His pursuit of being the best orator ever lead him into a relationship with a Christian man named Ambrose. Ambrose was a pastor, he was actually the bishop of Milan. Listen to Augustine speak of Ambrose:
“That man of God received me in fatherly fashion, and welcomed me. I began to love him, at first not as a teacher of the truth, which I utterly despaired of finding in the church, but as a man who was kindly disposed towards me.”…. as a man who was kindly disposed to me.”
And from there Augustine was converted and the Christian faith is different because of him. Sounds to me like:
Love covers over all wrongs.
I received an email yesterday from a friend. I’ve told you about this friend of mine before, he’s a pastor at Hope Reformed Church in Kalamazoo, MI. We prayed for him and for his family a few years ago when his daughter was born 8 weeks premature. He’s doing really good at Hope Reformed Church. I’ll begin reading in the middle of his email, listen:
A couple years ago a young man from our congregation (Shayne) was released from prison for multiple meth charges. He was a child of the church and many faithful folks stuck with him for decades of terrible behavior and resistance to the gospel. While in the prison, Forgotten Man Ministries got a hold of him and the Spirit grew a faith out of the faithful sowing of efforts of his family and church. A year or so after his release, Shayne asked the church for permission to host a Meth Anonymous Group here on Monday nights. It has been up and running for a few years now. This past year Shayne (who is now chairperson of the deacons) felt an impulse to make the gathering much more uniquely Christian. I guess you could say he realized he could no longer be silent about Jesus. God is doing some wonderful work through this group. Two other men recently out of jail have been baptized here within the last month and one of their mothers. Plus, dad is coming and he said that might never happen. It only took a couple months. A family who lives at the mission because their house was condemned due to operating a meth lab (3 young kids and mom and dad) are now with us week in and week out and growing more and more in Christ. I will be heading to Jackson today to visit another young man who was recently sentenced for meth charges. He is also hugely open to the gospel. Plus, his mom is coming to a new members gathering next week after being away from the Catholic church for decades. We have had a significant season of growth at Hope in 2009 and the beginning of 2010 and much of God’s new believer/ disciple work among us is happening through this faithful crew of former users getting serious about recovery in Jesus’ name for other users.
Wait a minute, wait a minute, that sounds like something I read recently, oh yeah:
Love covers over all wrongs.
Love covers over all wrongs.
Love covers over all wrongs.
So love, love not because its easy, not because its deserved, not because you want to, but because you’ve been loved and because it covers over wrongs.
In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.
Amen.
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